Although more personal in nature, I had an idea to share a few links at the end of last year, so I re-purposed this post from my now defunct personal blog. The links below offered me insight during 2013, and I hope you can find them useful as well when you continue into 2014. Enjoy!
It starts with a short, but wise quote from an article that confirmed a personal journey I had started at the end of 2011 going into 2012,
“We need to reclaim the word “friend” to mean someone that you actually meet, at least from time to time.”
I have friends all over the world, online and off, as I’m sure you do as well. But sometimes, there are relationships that need to be fostered in real life too. Which is a personal goal I’d like to continue for 2014, because in late 2012 I realized most of my “friends” became virtual even if we didn’t start out that way, and I was over it. And, not to discount any of my virtual friends, but in my opinion, we miss out on so much without the intimacy of interpersonal relationships if we are just pen pals online especially if we live in the same area.
So the following link showed me, I’m not the only one hungry for those interpersonal relationships. Take a look, and I hope this offers as much inspiration to you, if you are looking for a little more in your friendships:
Quote from: Are Your Facebook Friends Really Your Friends?
- Cyber Games
Okay, this is a pretty serious topic for me. And one that may be shocking to a few of my readers. But I’ve had quite a few lady friends who have come across those who like to play cyber games. No, get that out of your head. I’m not talking the boys who dress up and role play online games, they’re harmless. I’m talking boys who play mind games with women, in order to have an ego boost. What the what? They *do* that crap?
Without going into any specifics other than, IF this type of behavior does exist, I am the type of person who would be tempted to play along to see how far someone would go to keep up a facade as well as try to trip them up along the way. All in the name of research of course.
Let me explain.
Personally, I’m intrigued by online behavior. What makes a person do what they do, online. In a quest to learn habits and behaviors, I’d be tempted to play along, would I? M mm, probably wouldn’t waste my time.
However, as a friend recently experienced, you never know who’s behind that keyboard. Sure we all know this, but so many fall victim to online scams and not even realize it’s happening to them. And not that this is a scam, other than a douche bag playing with some poor girls or guys emotions, dating or even friendship is hard enough without all the online bullshit and games. Plus, you don’t have the intimacy online that’s needed to build a successful relationship, sure it’s a beginning, but shouldn’t be the end all.
I’m not here other than say, pay attention to your online behavior and follow your gut in any relationship of the heart, online. If things feel strange to you, there is a reason you are feeling that way.
Take a look at this insightful post on the topic I came across while researching for an upcoming project:
- Feeling Lost
Now, that’s a heavy subject and I won’t go into anymore details, other than sometimes when you’re in between jobs, or relationships, or whatever life throws at you, you feel a little lost and are in need of a boost and not of the ego kind like I mentioned above.
Not one for self-help, I found a website that has a fresh take on what it’s like to be unemployed, lost, and instead find your inner badass, and make up your own definition of what success should look like. It’s catered towards 20 somethings, which I am not, but still I found myself laughing out loud at more than a few posts.
So take a look at my final suggestion:
So there you have it, part links, part insight. I hope you found the link party useful. I know I’m totally looking forward to starting 2014, It’s already been a great start to the new year, wishing you continued success for 2014!